Women raise daughters - not sons.

For the men that marry young or, more often, have children young; the Black woman often finds herself raising a grown boy that had been nurtured by his mother. Often she is the one that urged him to get an education, taught him money management, time management and personal interaction skills. The problem is that his learning curve may be a little more than she can handle and her teaching methods harsh because she feels he should know this already since she does. He is ousted from the relationship just as he is coming to understand what she is doing. That is why the second woman of significance in his life usually has a real man – because the first one finished the job. This is why so many happily married husbands and fathers have children from previous relationships.